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So your social media feed is full of pictures of your friends getting engaged, tying the knot or even having kids and your parents are expecting you to settle down in the coming time. You might be dating someone or have had a few unsuccessful relationships, and are contemplating if this is the right time for you to get married. In case you are confused about whether to get hitched or not, here are a few things you need to consider.
You want to get married for the right reason
The first thing you need to think about is the reason you want to get married. Is it because all your friends have found the ‘one’ and you feel left out? You feel excited thinking about the idea of shopping, going on a honeymoon and getting that special attention? Or you have enjoyed your single life and feel ready to settle down? Well, it is very important to take the decision of getting married for the right reason, and not just for the charm associated with the wedding.
You understand the responsibilities
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Married life comes with lots of responsibilities. You have to look after an entire household, manage finances, take care of your partner and his or her family’s wellbeing and your own self. You might realise your responsibilities fully only when you take the plunge but at least you should be mentally prepared and willing to embrace them happily.
Your career
Remember, love does not pay bills. Make sure you figure out your finances before you decide to get married. No matter how much your partner earns, it is always wise to be financially independent and know how to manage your money.
You are in love
In case you are already in a serious relationship, it is important that you both share similar values and expect the same things from the relationship. Both partners should understand each other properly and share a healthy relationship.
You are not carrying any emotional baggage
If you have even an iota of feelings for your ex-partner or you are carrying any kind of emotional baggage from your past, it is obvious that you need to gain some clarity about your thoughts and feelings. Maybe, you have not completely moved on from your past and you need to give yourself some time before taking any marriage-related decision.
It’s okay if you are single
Well, it is not necessary that you need to date someone to get married. Thanks to matrimonial sites and apps, you can take charge of finding your life partner, take your own time and go for an arranged marriage if everything looks good. Again, look for someone who shares similar values and understands what all it takes to make a marriage successful. At the end of the day, no one can predict the future of a relationship and you need to take a leap of faith.
The most important one
Before you decide to exchange vows and invest your emotions in someone else, make sure you have fallen in love with yourself first. Self-love is the best kind of love. You might struggle to find happiness in your romantic relationship if you don’t love your own self.
